Hi Alone
I do not have experience marrying an A (just went out with some guy in early alcoholic stages) but wanted to tell you you are SO NOT Alone. You got yourself first and foremost, and also HP/God/nature or whatever you may believe in, and us in SR and real friends&family that love you and want you to be HAPPY. Not just "hanging in there" or "surviving". Happy. What a concept!!
As you progress in your recovery answers and clarity will come to you... as the philosopher Osho said, "weed grows naturally". It is an organic process. Or at least it has been for me.
"Codependent no more" by Melody Beatty has helped me a lot. Hope you can get a copy. And yes.. we are an amazing group!!
