Wow.
You have had one heck of a day, and may I say, you handled it... MAGNIFICENTLY.
Crying and getting puffy and scared doesn't diminish that one tiny bit. How interesting that your doctor had such a relevant story for you. (I think there are NO coincidences.) Calling your lawyer to ask your question was also very smart AND brave. It's so easy to avoid seeking the truth about our situations, but you DID it. Knowledge is power.
You also said good things to your husband--honest things. Whether he recovers or not, you are keeping YOUR side of the street clean. Awesome. Really awesome.
I hate to sound like an idiot here, but it seems like a few things clicked for you today. I have a VERY strong feeling you will come through whatever comes just fine. Seriously.
HUGE hugs, I hope you can take a nice hot bath or something--you had a tough day.