((( Capsized, Elizajane, Emilylou, and Gigi58))),
Lexicat is right, none of this has to do with alcoholism. This is all man/women relationship dynamics.
Please pick up a book called, "The Rules". The Rules are not about getting a man, but weeding out the men who are not right for us. There is a forum of women there that will help you. Please message me and I will send you a link.
Many Hugs,
Lithloren