passionfruit, can you call your DV counsellor?
I'm a bit concerned that you are minimizing this. Did you think that he would never punch you in the face or throttle you before he actually did it?
He needs locking up. No-one should have to go through what he has put you through. WTF do these men think they are?
Is there somewhere you can stay where he doesn't know for a few days, at least? Just so that you aren't living under so much stress? You could pack a few things in a bag and put it in the boot of your car and see if anyone at your meeting has a spare room.