Shellcrusher,
I know what you are going thru. My wife was served papers Feb 17. I have read many of your threads, but has your wife ever sought any type of treatment? I had a ton of documents from our insurance company that helped establish she had issues. And don't downplay the significance a journal can have, it could prove to be important. Basically document everything you can. Your lawyer will be able to guide you and I think you will feel a lot better once you discuss things with your lawyer. Just know that eventually your life will be in a much better place. You are starting on a new journey now that will have a happy ending. Hang in there.