Thank you everyone for your kind words and advice. I have been thinking alot about this... I am the one who changed. I let him treat me like **** because I thought I deserved it, I thought very little of my self so I let him treAt me that way. Now I am beginning to gain some self respect, I I'm no longer willing to be talked to like I'm worthless. He is going to have to change with me or I will have to leave. I did not mention this before but he also keeps trying to find reasons for me to drink, valentines day, new years his b-day & now my 40th b-day is in a couple months and he's already talking about that. I just don't think my sobriety means a damn thing to him.