Originally Posted by
RollTide 
Your post makes me remember the insanity. Have you ever gotten one of those e-mails that says "click here" and the target moves when you try to click on it? That is what it is like to try and live with an alcoholic.
Giving you a hug this morning, wanttobe.
So is the answer that it simply is nearly impossible to have peace, no matter how much you TRY to detach when living with an A?
I really feel the rug has been pulled out from under me... I started to be able to not take things personally when he was drinking bc I could blame the alcohol... but sober, he's the same and there's nothing to blame.
His behavior is not all attributable to alcoholism... I think he is just abusive through and through and probably would be whether he was a drunk or not.
I am sick over the fact that I either live like this indefinitely or tear my kids' lives apart and throw away the hope of a family...
I think that I've made my decision (to leave) and I need to figure out how to have this conversation.
