He at first said yes, then over the course of the week has decided again that we can't have a relationship if we aren't living with him in his house (blah blah quack quack).
Yes, he is being an insufferable drunk. What a hoser.
Who said anything about relationship? This was about a birthday dinner.
Your good grace for thinking of him and inviting him to dinner was answered with some ********.
It really is not you, it is him.
You are being punished for not living with him.
He is not clear on this yet.
Maybe stop trying to be a reasonable person, he is obviously not on the same playing field let alone the same city.
Beth
You can do this.