Thanks Lexie,
Yes I am happy to go along with hope, I actually thinks she wants to pull it together.
Had another nice day together.
Something one of the counsellors at my after-care said to me after saying she was sorry the missus has relapsed so quick was that it was not all lost, she said that after having done the treatment the A would never be able to just drink away the same as they did before knowing what they know, having done full step 1s infront of a group of peers etc.
Been made to face all the truth and consequences
So yes, recovery doesn't need to happen all at once, it can be a cobbled together series of experiences and events that evetually lead them to wanting it and realising it.
Thanks...Just need to make sure I don't throttle back on my own recovery work!