Disease and therefore the reason why
I just had a light bulb moment while reading through different threads. I think I and perhaps we (codies) have a hard time walking away from the problem (which is really our AH, AW, AP) because what they are struggling with is called a disease. That is why it is so hard to turn our backs on them and let them find their bottom? Is there any other disease where you leave the person alone to deal with their disease? If just feels wrong to do so but yet as I read through everything that is exactly what we/I should be doing. The kind loving side of us tells us we should try and help but we have to fight through that feeling. It really goes against the way we are wired.
If they didn't have this disease, but acted the same way would we have such a hard time showing them the hand? I don't think so. I think we would look at them as huge jerks who make really bad choices in life and be done with it.
Hummm