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Old 03-05-2011, 11:15 AM
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keepinon
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I see you as holding your ground pretty darn wellIt seems there is no talk of him moving back in and there are lots of consequences..his job, the DUI, that he is going to have to deal with..just think of the alanon mtgs as gas in your tank that you are gonna need for this upcoming long ride..right now everything is ok.he's safe.If abandonment talk comes up, you can deal with it then..you know you didn't abandon him..in my daughters rehab they taught us to "hold up a mirror" and "keep putting it back on them"..a key phrase could be something like.."the rules of the house weren't being followed" and you can repeat it 30,000 times..every time he comes at you with a "u threw me out!" or whatever..the key is NOT to engage. I used "you chose to leave by not following the rules" and stuck with that..BUT, don't get too far ahead of yourself.. one day at a time and all that!
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