I did actually read your whole post, but thanks for the response back. I don't operate well on 'knee jerk' reactions 'round here. Gets me in trouble
I think it sucks to ask children to keep secrets, especially when it comes to addiction. I'm a double 'winner'.. I am an alcoholic and codependent in recovery. Well hell, I'm also ACOA I suppose considering the addiction fueled asylum I was raised in. I just think it can really get sticky when children are covering up for their own parents' issues. That (to me) breeds some serious codependent/enabling beginnings. However, that's your call as a parent..we all raise our children as best we can, and the way we prefer to.
I hope it goes well.