Originally Posted by
nodaybut2day 
Eventually, I realized that there's no prize for who suffers the most.
.... I realized that if I died then and there, there would be no note on my tombstone saying "Here lies NoDay. She was a saint 'cause her hubby was a pain in the @ss to deal with".
Love it, NoDay....LOL...because I believe that has been a subconscious driver in my putting up with all kinds of stuff. Wow, I get a pat on the back for being so "nice", his friends even tell me I'm a saint, and you're right--who cares?? As you eloquently pointed out, if you truly want to inspire people it's not going to be with long-suffering and a hair shirt.