Hugs,
I think I was just musing out loud up there. I see you getting stronger, and more grounded in your thinking. You are making great internal progress.
Consider your own situation--as painful as this is for you, are you not growing as a result?
The pain he will experience once he is out on his own can make HIM stronger, too. Nobody enjoys painful experiences, but they can be great for personal growth.
LOL, my mom used to tell me all the time, "It builds character." I used to want to strangle her when she said it, but it's true. I've become so much stronger and more capable as a result of some of the mistakes I've made, and bad stuff that has happened in my life. If I had been sheltered from it all, I would not be the person I am today (someone I'm starting to like again).