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Old 03-02-2011, 07:14 PM
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Babyblue
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Holding onto anger is toxic. Good that you are trying to get to the root at what made you angry. I suspect his revelation triggered memories of your dad's alcoholism which were painful. But he is not your father.

A friend of mine has epilepsy. Pretty severe in fact. She fell for this great guy but was so scared to tell him of her illness. It was more of for her own personal reasons and issues that she witheld the information. She was petrified of rejection, of being seen as 'less than'.

So maybe this will help you understand from his perspective. Could it also be that he withheld because he knew it was get a very strong reaction from you (since he probably has a good idea of how you are at this point).

Anyway, hope you find some peace in this situation. Sometimes it is hard to know why we feel the things we do. Often they are just feelings to process and experience. Time will make it easier.
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