I"m sorry you were offended, if my AH said something like that I'd probably be very pissed off too, mainly because NONE of this had been funny to me. How funny is it when your husband pees himself? It's not. It's sick and disgusting.
It's also called secondary wounding
Secondary Wounding - Blaming Mental Health or Personality | PTSD Forum
I've struggled with this also-being the butt of jokes regarding something that utterly traumatized me. It's horrible, I go into blinding rages, but I have PTSD.
I hope you recover soon, feel better soon.
Here's the only al anon joke I know:
What does a codie see right before death?
The alcoholics life flashes before her eyes!