Oh good lord, I can think of nothing worse. It would be a constant battle to be the 'carer'.
I was watching an episode of House the other day. In it Wilson was charged with getting a new bed and choosing a hard or soft mattress as Amber had no preference. Get the one you want was what he was told. Of course, he choose the one he thought she preferred. On laying on the bed Amber discovered he had purchased the hard one and asked him why.. he said, because it was the one he thought she wanted. She stated that she told him to pick the one he wants. Wilson then said he picked the one she wanted because he wanted to please her/take care of her and was that so wrong. She replied, hello have you met me.. I can take care of me.. I need you to take care of you.
That's what healthy looks like to me.
Tx