I always said I would NEVER go to Alnon.
well...as a child of an alcoholic that is now MARRIEd to an alcoholic...um i guess I needed alnon way more than I thought.
My 3rd meeting is tomorrow. I love it.
I go. I sit. I listen. I can say whatever I am feeling (within reason) and not feel like I'm being judged. It's my safety zone so to speak.
I'm not walking on eggshells, or dealing w/ "oh that didn't come out the way I intended it" like I'm constantly having to do w/ my RAH who is so far on a dry drunk he may as well be carrying around a beer bottle.
It helps me. I'm not ready to speak...but I listen and I'm applying what I read in "Codependence No More" by Melody Beattie with it....it's working for me.
I'm coping. I'm setting my boundaries. I'm trying to decide (decisions are hard for us codies)...what "I" want for my future.
I really do recommend it for anyone involved w/ or who comes from an A family. It's a huge help in just the coping aspect of the disease process, even when they are in R.