Thank you. I just feel so badly that I yelled at him and now unsure if I did act inappropriately to his pain the night before. I don't think I did, but its so hard. I don't want to blame him and not be reponsible for my actions. I will try to find that book and read it. I have noticed control issues recently but admit I am strong willed too. Don't see myself as a controller at all, if anything I am a codependent!