Cyranoak

...this is the correct answer. You do nothing around his drinking. The more you try and control this, the more he will resist. You did not cause his drinking, you cannot cure his alcoholism, and you can control neither.

What you can control is your own actions, and what will help you find your answers is to go find an Alanon meeting as soon as you possibly can. It is not AA, AA is for alcoholics, it is Alanon and it is for people who are affected by somebody else's drinking. Try at least six meetings, some different, before deciding if it is for you.

If you really want to learn how to find your answers, if you want to most effectively help your children though this, and if you want to give your husband his best chance at recovery you will do this. How to find a meeting in the US/Canada/Puerto Rico

If not, you will find excuses not to go, and you will do it your way, whatever your way is. When that way doesn't work Alanon will still be there for you.

Here's a gift somebody else gave to me in 2003:

Cyranoak