Originally Posted by
phineas How you deal with the trust issues?
I'm sure she lied to in the past, as all addicts do. How did you, if at all, rebuild the trust?
For me, after I left my XAGF, even if she did embrace recovery, which she didn't, I could never get past the fact that she lied to me so many times, I can't be in a relationship where I can't trust her.
This is a problem for me. I value honesty above most other things. And mine lies when the truth works just fine. The next time she tells the truth about her drinking will be the first. I don't even ask anymore. I simply expect the lie. I know it is coming, so I don't get frustrated anymore. I am unable to just put it behind us because it is still happening. In fairness, it is happening less. And I understand it is a part of the recovery process. Her process. Not sure I am going to accept as part of mine. We'll see.