Originally Posted by Shellcrusher

What's missing here? Your recovery. You've been dealing with a binge drinker for 9 years, as you say. I haven't been involved with my AW that long and I'm working very hard on recovering my own sense of identity. I've been reading a good book. Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. You may find it interesting as it sounds like you're working very hard on his life and kinda putting yours on hold.