Short answer..you are enabling..plz do read the stickies and get to alanon as soon as possible.PAIN is what motivates people out of addiction..pain of banctruptcy, losing their job,going to jail, becoming homeless, etc. When you supply wake up calls, food, shelter, etc..there is no feeling the consequences of their addiction. My daughter was 18 when I had her leave and let her wallow in her addiction..she had to feel every lonely, scary, homeless, sick, sad, hungry moment to want recovery.