My Soon To Be Ex Alcoholic Wife (STBXAW) also was a closet drinker and Vodka seems to be the drink of choice around here. Anyway, I too found her stash and I just put everything out on our kitchen table and didn't say anything. A that point she realized the problem was out in the open. However, you will learn that you are powerless and they will not get help unless they want to. There is nothing you can do about it. You will see the three C's alot, you didn't Cause it, you can't Control it and you can't Cure it. I wish you the best of the luck and hope your wife will seek some help. Try Al Alon, it has helped many here.