Originally Posted by
Mimic 
Not sure what to think. My judgment is heavily clouded by my feelings for him.
At least you recognize this!
If he truly is an alcoholic, he cannot "control" his drinking. I would say that it's hard to judge, but if you say he went a month without drinking before, and degraded into this again, there is a good change he is alcoholic.
That said, you need to concentrate on what is acceptable in your mind, with regards to you, how much you help him, how he treats you, etc. Alcoholism is a progressive disease, and if you don't set up boundaries for yourself now, it is very likely you will lose yourself.
Also keep in mind, he is who he is. YOU cannot change him into something, only he can decide if he wants to change. You also can't pick and choose - "I want him on his good days but not his bad days" won't work - you are bidding on the whole package, because he is what you see.
:ghug3