Originally Posted by
Buffalo66 
It is not uncommon for the inlaws to b in denial or to scapegoat the significant other. It decreases their pain somehow, and it is not fair.
And this will probably be on the list of the best advice you will get on here. Alot of us have had to deal with the In-law issue. Do not allow them to make you feel guilty and do not wait for them to make an apology or an acknowledgement of what you have dealt with. They will be pissed with you if you leave because THEY will have to deal with it now.
I spent years waiting for this - total waste of time!
dont waste your energy on it. BE SELFISH!! Look after yourself and your children and dont give a flying 'you know what' what anyone else thinks!
keep posting here -lots of support from people who know exactly what you are going through...