Hi Robster. Welcome!.
Please see this as another step in getting help.. for YOURSELF!!!
Lies? Well in a sober world you probably know he would love you and your kids to death.
In his alcoholic world YOU will love HIM to death. literally.
As long as he is drinking, you will never be a prioroity. or his kids. or his job. or his debts. or anything or anyone else. ALCOHOL is his primary relationship.
This is a sad fact.
I hope you find some strength to do the right thing for yourself and your children. In strength you will find peace.
Hugs to you