Cy, your key words "she never gave up trying to find sobriety"."I respected that about her." Seems like you both work together great. No one can fault those actions.
My wife of 27 years gets out of jail this Friday after a 30 day visit. Hopeing its the bottom for her. I know it is for me. I hope we get those smiles back like you are shareing with your wife.
One day at a time brother.