Originally Posted by
Sediku 
...Otherwise there is no abuse, he is a happy drunk...
Originally Posted by
Sediku ...learned, more as a self preservation protective tactic to not get hurt)...
Hello and welcome to SR. You're among lots of people who get you and it sounds like you've been doing plenty of work on yourself before coming here. I snipped some sentences from your post because they stood out.
Among many things, I work on detachment because I hated getting sucked into my AW's drunken tirades. She was/is verbally abusive which boils down to mental abuse. I wasn't quite sure what you meant.