Originally Posted by
buttercream I've read tons of books on alcoholism, and there is still one concept that I cannot wrap my head around: if the alcoholic KNOWS alcohol will destroy his life, sees the damage it is doing, and professes that he wants to stop drinking...why won't he seek a program or treatment to try and address the problem when there are so many options available???
I just don't get it.
When I was newly sober I had those thoughts.
Why wasn't it so obvious to me when I was drinking?
It was
so obvious to me when I was sober.
Have come to believe that it's probably a combination of things, important to realize that alcoholism is considered by many to be a
primary mental illness, so you're dealing with someone that literally isn't in their right mind.
When I got sober, I continued in a very unhealthy relationship with an active addict/alcoholic for nearly
4 years, and was always chasing the
why's.
My experience, the
why doesn't matter, all you need to know is the
what. I knew the
what from the start, chasing the why didn't help
me one little bit.
I'll leave the research about the
why's to people that get paid to do it.