Old 02-22-2011, 03:16 PM
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seekingcalm
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One thing I have learned is that I have absolutely no control over what my exabf did or does or any of it.

We are not that powerful. Whether or not you leave or stay, he will do what he will do.

When I left my exabf, he said he wanted to die. I told him to get professional help, I could not help him. He did. He is better now, and he got there on his own.

I focussed on my own health and well being. Al-Anon, SR and my therapist helped me when I could not help myself. I asked friends, family, anyone I needed to for help. And they did. And I am happier now than I ever have been. But it was horrible going through it. The hardest part was coming to the realization that I could not control the situation. Once I did that, I felt free.
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