The replies are amazing and this is an active forum. I have been reading on, especially the stickies.
There is no way I can find any way in my heart to give up on her and nobody has really suggested that. But I have to admit, I never really have given much thought about it getting worse as some of you describe. I feel in many ways like my wifes "FATHER" instead of her husband when it comes to drinking.
This is all actually very confusing for me. I have to admit, my biggest fear right now is losing her to an alcohol addiction.
To think my situation was strange was seriously incorrect!