Originally Posted by
oneilshome 
...I have tried to get her to quit, I myself would too. I have tried yelling, talking, begging, writing letters to her and I just can't get through to her that this is just to the point of no return with me and I need her to get help.
Hello and Welcome to SR.
Like LaTeeDa said, the situation with your wife isn't as strange as it sounds. I too, have an (A)lcoholic (W)ife AW.
I also struggled with getting her to change. I yelled, wrote letters, begged, cried, supported, diverted, told her family, etc. Right now, she is not active but I also know she's a binge drinker so it could happen at any time.
There are a few things I've learned. They may or may not apply to you.
I've learned to put more energy into myself and making sure that I'm clear, level headed and as healthy as I can be. This is done for me so I can do it for my 20 month old son.
The other thing I've learned and practice as much as I can are the 3 Cs.
You did not Cause it.
You can not Control it.
You can not Cure it.
Lastly, there are a few sticky topics at the top of this forum. They provide some extraordinary insight and I believe they're a great read.
You've found an excellent resource here. Keep on writing and reading. It really does help.