Stick to the facts of what you know – try to take emotions out of it as best you can.
Fact #1…You thought rehab would be a magic pill so you stayed with him thinking you could work it out.
Fact#2…He is still sick, just because he has obtained from consuming alcohol for 6 weeks doesn’t mean he is healthy. His brain is still saturated from the alcohol.
Fact#3…He is listening to other sick people who are his equals right now. He’s not reached beyond them for help.
Fact#4…He’s blaming and playing spine Dr by telling you that you need rehab. It deflects away from him and his issues.
Fact#5…When you need/want time to yourself like shopping and running errands – turn off your phone, you deserve that time for you.
As long as you know the truth, you know what you know and stick to the facts then his spew won’t affect you as much.
Maybe yes his to death without admitting to any of his quakery, tell him you need time to yourself away from him to think about all these things he is saying, kind of put it back on him and in his court. Then the next step would be that your therapist told you that you need to have no contact with him for a while! Tell him your al-anon people friends recommends distance…………..alot of distance right now.
Not to play games here but more of owning up to things the things he’s said and the things you need for you right now.
By the way, how did you feel during those 30 days without him?