Welcome to SR.
You've found a great resource here. As suggested, read some of those stickies up top. Read other posts. You'll find that they're generally the same story.
Concentrate on a few key ideas that should help get your thoughts straight. Those would be the 3 cs.
You didn't cause it.
You can't control it.
You can't cure it.
You'll also find a varying degree of advice/suggestions. It's important to understand that while we're all in the same boat, some of us have paddled more than others. I'm only saying this because I've seen "new to the forum" people come in here and get thrown off by some of the heavy stuff that can be said. So take what you want, leave the rest but you've found an excellent source of support here.
Oh and yes. I've been called a Dictator/Hitler because I'm sooooooo controlling.