I did the "compartmentalizing thing" for a long time....and stopped three years ago. Now I realize that back then I was so starved for his affection and attention, that it got in the way of making a healthier decision for myself. It wasn't the kind of sex I wanted anymore... it had to be in the morning - before he drank so much and it all had to be "his way".... And I did it all - hoping that I would get "my way" again someday. Now, I wish I would have stopped earlier. The emotional connection that other people have with the most intimate of activities, I have trouble with now and am working my way back. Best of luck with your decision. Just wanted you to know, I've been there and I'm sorry about the tough choices you are faced with.