I spent about 2 weeks with very little contact. He eventually sweet talked me into spending time with him on the notion of "how can I know he has changed if I do not spend time with him?"
I wish I had a nickel for every time I fell for this same line. After 3 years of this BS (we weren't married) I finally realized that what my best friend kept telling me over and over was true: People RARELY change. Not the kind of BIG change I needed him to make, anyway.
I would have saved myself a LOT of stress and heartache if I had cut and run at the very first sign of trouble. It was a HUGE sign with flashing lights and neon lettering that popped up at 4 WEEKS but I ignored it!!!!! WTF?? Oh yes, and I ignored the 4,235 other signs over the next 3 years.
BUT -- I won't do that ever again. Not a chance.