I attended my rabf's 1 year celebration AA meeting today, and I was also there for his 90 day celebration 9 months ago.
He was hanging on by a thread back then, not drinking, but quack quack quacking, self pitying, the works...what a difference now.
He is so self aware, he blames no one, he is calm and thoughtful, and the journey has just begun for him as a sober man. I was humbled to be there today. Recovery is a blessing.
Take care of you...leave your RAH to his higher power. That's all we can do.