Originally Posted by
blwninthewind 
I need to think what his next move will be...so I don't react.
Do what you need to do so that you can maintain your serenity - absolutely.
The trick, though, is that you don't
need to guess anything about what he's about to do.
Kassie made a great point to me this week...
In my thread about XABF appearing on Valentine's Day, his car sitting in my parking lot, I commented that "I should have expected today would be the day. He has never been one to forget Valentine's Day."
Kassie's reply made me think about a lot of things:
Originally Posted by
Kassie2 And of course remind yourself that any normal person would not expect anything for Val Day if you weren't having any contact.
A's don't act normal. You can't really "figure out" what they're about to do. You can guess, he has been in your life long enough for you to have an idea, but you cannot extrapolate the future because they
do not act rationally. They are
not normal, and spending more than five minutes trying to "figure out" what they're going to do is time better spent thinking about
you.