THis makes me think of all the things my AH wants protected - his right to sneak his "guilty pleasures" - alcohol, cigarettes, porn - his debt, etc.
When I say this makes me uncomfortable, he says I am not respecting him.
Well, I'm not sure allowing him to lie to me is healthy for me.
Sometimes I get more hung up on respect than on taking care of me.
Respecting his right to lie to me just doesn't make sense.
I think respecting your husband's desire to "own" the meeting space/time just doesn't make sense.
Take what you want and leave the rest.
Hugs, p