Originally Posted by
passionfruit 
....... I personally could not stand by and let this destroy my marriage without one heck of a fight. He has one good chance here. If he blows it, I know, without a doubt, I did all I could (because I believe in the power of me!) and I shall quietly slip away and let him live the h*ll he has chosen for himself.
Ditto to this above. I felt the same way and basically did the same thing - left him alone with his demons. It's been 90 days sober and 45 days separated. In that time, I have learned that I have work to do on ME and to detach from him and his journey.
I never thought of an intervention, because in my situation, he wasn't bothering anyone else with his drinking. Heck, no one else knew, especially his family. He only told them the truth after I moved out. I do believe in raising the bottom, but you have to be prepared that it may not work and that was very hard to accept at first - it took me almost a year to finally make good on the "leaving" part.