Good point, Florence! I am on meds that knock my sex drive way down.
If that were the problem, I think that can be negotiated and compromised?
I can still be seduced, tho' ..as you say.
Conversations go a long way with me. and other things in the male role.
I am afraid I take help with the house for granted. maybe I am getting spoiled.
In any case, lovemaking is an art, as well as a need in relationships.
I think it is when we honor that, that it works out best.
I did try to teach my daughter that withholding sex was not a good move in a love and marriage relationship.
I hate it when it is used as punishments.