It's actually kind of scary. One day of me "detaching" and he just completely lost it. He had a big project due today (part of the reason he has been such a maniac lately) and he just told his client he couldn't do it. He is the breadwinner of our family and this client provides half of our income. I told him that's the last straw for me and now I hear him down in our basement wailing like a sick puppy, just loudly sobbing out of control. It's making me feel really guilty, but I am trying to not go down there.
I hate this, but I think it was inevitable and had to happen. I have been trying to stop it from happening for so long and it was making me crazy. I am actually not that scared about him leaving, I know I can work and take care of my kids. I am more scared of what he is going to do for himself and I think that has kept me down for a long time.