Originally Posted by
Thumper 
I could have avoided crazy all along, no matter what he did, had I only made different decisions.
Well said! Yes, I am coming to realize these are OUR decisions; not their behavior. And that this is where I have the power to change. And that is very comforting, because I am still not ready to give up on my A or my marriage. This is where I find a little bit of hope again.