3 weeks is a long time. Don't give it up. Your gut is telling you this is manipulation - trust yourself.
Do something! Instead of emailing him do you know anyone that could really use a lift? or that goes unnoticed? Give them away and make a positive difference with them. It will come to them as a [B]no strings attached[B] gesture to brighten their day and you get to earn some good karma
. They will be out of sight and before you know it the day will be over and the agst about what to do about the flowers gone.
It is good that you posted!
ETA: Lexie and I cross posted