Taking charge..........I feel for this woman too. I think. I have no idea who she is or what she is like. I feel like I should give her the disclaimer, but no one gave it to me! She may well be here soon. I don't know. I was with him for 10 years and didn't start to recognize the problems until year 4 or so. Even then, I put up with it. It has just finally been this last 2 years that I have actually done something about it. She could be in for a long, bumpy ride. I'm just glad it's not me anymore! Her problem now! But I do hope her child isn't adversely affected.