Originally Posted by
brokenheartfool 
I have started seeing a recovering alcoholic of 7 1/2 years and now I wonder if there will be surprises. He's really pushing the emotional intimacy.
So far, so good.
I am new to this forum as well, and recently started seeing a recovering alcoholic who came on really strong and initiated everything, and was so attentive and sweet and wonderful...and then all of a sudden he shut it all down and said he needed to focus on the present. Now I don't know where I stand, although I think it's over because we went from speaking everyday to not at all. And he also REALLY pushed the emotional intimacy from the start, and pushed even more towards the end. Is this something that people in recovery have a habit of doing, and why? I am interested in learning about this, because it would certainly make things easier to understand.