Fair enough Summer. Let me rephrase it from they know something we don't know-- rather, they are capable of not enmeshing themselves with alcoholic addicts. That's what I am trying to learn, and what I think would help anybody else like me. The understanding of that concept and trying to solve for it.
I don't mean they don't fall in love with alcoholic addicts, I mean they don't continue the relationships in a codependent, controlling, enabling fashion.
Also, my need to understand everything ruined my life until I recovered from my need to understand everything. Human condition or not, I consider my former need to understand everything a character defect, and I'm thankful it's been lifted from me.
As for Freud? There's no question he was a genius. He was also a cocaine addict, had profound issues in his personal life, and committed suicide with morphine when he found out he had cancer.
Take care,
Cyranoak