One of the things I picked up on in your post was when you said:
I am slightly hurt, and confused, should I just ignore it and continue on? Should I quit going to the open meetings altogether?
Having lived with alcoholism, we’ve been conditioned for that ALL or NOTHING, BLACK or WHITE thinking.
It sounds like you want to go to HIS AA meeting but you want to share for YOU and if you can’t do that….well, then you won’t go at all.
We need to learn to find that grey area in life, where we compromise. If you can benefit from attending this meeting without YOU sharing then by all means continue to attend. If you find that you resent going their because you can’t share, then your in the wrong meeting.
If you are looking to be involved with your husbands recovery, and if you are working your own al-anon program then look for a couples meeting in your area that is set up for couples where you both of you attend the same meeting where both of you can share.
Personally for me when I was invited to attend HIS AA meeting it was so that I could see and understand what HIS meetings were all about. My meetings worked better for me because my meetings were for me.
((((hugs))))