Originally Posted by
HeyImme 
Do you completely ignore the drinking and act as if everything is just fine? Allow them to enjoy the consequences of their drinking without reacting in pity or reveling in it? Quit participating in conversations which try to identify why they are unhappy since we already know why?
No, you don't act as everything is fine. You keep the lines of communitcation open, while at the same time refusing to be manipulated. That means rejecting their pleadings and excuses after having made a stand on what you will and won't accept and what they need to do in order for you to keep from leaving.
You act with love, yes. But also following through on what has to be done.